Aloha Aure, your post highlights how cultures establish norms - of which - unless born into - are difficult to digest.

Our species seems addicted to tribalism. Venture outside one's tribe - bad. Try to live in a tribe that's foreign to one's birth tribe? Daunting. Date outside your tribe - well - good luck with that! LOL

May your journey to a new home who welcomes you with open arms be effortless and quick ;)